Showing posts with label Parables. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parables. Show all posts

Monday, October 27, 2008

Stop Taking Things For Granted

A man planned to move house for the third time in as
many years. He
lived in a lovely beach house with
a magnificent view of the ocean. A
labyrinth of
hiking trails strewn with wild irises and poppies
were at
his front door. When asked why he might
leave such a beautiful setting.



“Oh, I’m tired of it,” he responded indifferently.
“It was great when I
first moved in, but now
it’s just the same old thing. I can’t see it
anymore.”
“I can’t see it anymore.” How
accurate the statement.
He failed to
notice the ocean.
He walked by the flowers without
so much as a glance.
He thought of his home as merely a place to
lay down his head.



Living in paradise, he might just as well have
resided at the city dump.
Nine
people out of ten would have jumped at the
opportunity to rent this man
’s house, yet he did
not appreciate its virtues.





Human beings have a curious capacity to take
things for granted.
The most exquisite diamond loses its luster
with familiarity.
The most compatible intimate becomes boring.
Miracles like the daily sunrise fail to astonish
because they’re commonplace!
Repetition and time dull our sense of wonder.

We endow novelty with powers and attributes
that it does not really possess.
When a thing becomes familiar to us, the mystery
we have projected onto it is lost.
We see it without the overlay of our imaginings.



The irony in this idiosyncrasy of
human character is that we are disappointed
by the very things that used to excite us.
The once new job, or leisure activity
is now tedious.
We feel let down rather than uplifted.
Disappointment is a consequence
of our expectation that an object or event
will continue to provide us with stimulation
regardless of how constant our contact.
Unless we adjust our expectations
accordingly, we will continue to feel deflated.

Anticipate boredom! But is this really a
serious solution?
Another alternative is to maintain a fresh
perspective on the commonplace by living life
with contrast.
If the man had spent time away from his ocean home,
he would have returned to it with “new” eyes.
He would have seen it again as he did the first time.



Thursday, October 9, 2008

Be Happy - Shake Off the Dirt From Your Life

Contribution from Janet......

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth it to retrieve the donkey.



He invited all his neighbours to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement he quieten down.

A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up.



As the farmer's neighbours continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!

MORAL of the story :

Life is going to shovel 'dirt' on you, all kinds of 'dirt'. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up. Life is our greatest Teacher!




Remember the five simple rules to be happy:

1. Free your heart from all evils (especially selfishness and hatred) - Learn to Forgive and Forget and move on with goodness of heart.

2. Free your mind from all unhappiness and worries - so that there is no fear, no anxiety and no sorrow - Learn to Live Life instead of worrying about Life.

3. Have contentment and Love - then learn to appreciate what you have in Life more and more.

4. Be willing to share and help via your willingness to Give more.

5. Avoid having Expectations that can make you miserable. (Expect to be appreciated; to be Love; to be promoted; to be treated as equal... etc.





You have two choices...smile and close this page, or pass this along to someone else to share the message. I know what I should do!



Thursday, October 2, 2008

Those Were The Days


To all those who were born in the 50s, 60s and 70s

First we survived with mothers who had no maids. They cooked and cleaned while taking care of us at the same time. We took aspirin, candy floss, fizzy drinks, shaved ice with syrup And diabetes was rare. Salt added to Pepsi or coke was remedy for fever. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets. As children, we would ride with our parents on bicycle motorcycles. Richer ones in cars without the seatbelts or airbags. Riding in the back of a private taxi is a special treat. We drank water from the tap and not from the bottle. We would spend hours on the fields under bright sunlight, flying our kites. Without worrying about UV rays which never seem to affect us. We go into the jungle to catch spiders without worries of aedes mosquitoes.


With mere 5 pebbles (stones) would be an endless game. With a ball, we boys would run like crazy for hours. We caught guppies in drains or canals and when it rained we swam there. We share one soft drink with 4 friends from on bottle and no one actually worried about being unhygienic. We ate salty, very sweet and oily food, candies bread and real butter and drank very sweet coffee or tea, ice kachang, but we weren’t over weight because…. We would spend hours repairing our old bicycles and wooden scooters out of scraps and then ride down the hill, Only to find out that we forgot the brakes, after running into the bushes a few times we learn to solve the problem. WE did not have Playstations, Nintendos, X-boxes, multiple channels on Cable TV, DVD movies, no surround sounds, no phones, no PC, no internet.


WE had Friends. And we went out and found them. WE fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and we still continued the stunts. We never had birthday parties until we were 21. The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law! Yet this generation had produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever. The past 40 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility and we learned how to deal with it all.

If you are one of them CONGRATULATIONS! You may want to share this with others who have the luck to grow up as kids, before the government regulated our lives for our own good. And while you are at it, Forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were!

(contributed by Bala & Vincent )


Thursday, July 17, 2008

Romeo and Juliet of Modern day China a.k.a Loh Mee Oh & Chu Lee Eh

An incredible love story has come out of China recently and managed to touch the world. It is a story of a man and an older woman who ran off to live and love each other in peace for over half a century. The 70-year-old Chinese man who hand-carved over 6,000 stairs up a mountain for his 80-year-old wife has passed away in the cave which has been the couple's home for the last 50 years.Over 50 years ago, Liu Guojiang a 19 year-old boy, fell in love with a 29 year-old widowed mother named Xu Chaoqin..
In a twist worthy of Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet, friends and relatives criticized the relationship because of the age difference and the fact that Xu already had children. At that time, it was unacceptable and immoral for a young man to love an older woman.. To avoid the market gossip and the scorn of their communities, the couple decided to elope and lived in a cave in Jiangjin County in Southern ChongQing Municipality.

In the beginning, life was harsh as hey had nothing, no electricity or even food. They had to eat grass and roots they found in the mountain, and Liu made a kerosene lamp that they used to light up their lives. Xu felt that she had tied Liu down and repeatedly asked him, 'Are you regretful? Liu always replied, 'As long as we are industrious, life will improve.'In the second year of living in the mountain, Liu began and continued for over 50 years, to hand-carve the steps so that his wife could get down the mountain easily.

Half a century later in 2001, a group of adventurers were exploring the forest and were surprised to find the elderly couple and the over 6,000 hand-carved steps. Liu MingSheng, one of their seven children said, 'My parents loved each other so much, they have lived in seclusion for over 50 years and never been apart a single day. He hand carved more than 6,000 steps over the years for my mother's convenience, although she doesn't go down the mountain that much.'

The couple had lived in peace for over 50 years until last week. Liu, now 72 years, returned from his daily farm work and collapsed. Xu sat and prayed with her husband as he passed away in her arms. So in love with Xu, was Liu, that no one was able to release the grip he had on his wife's hand even after he had passed away. 'You promised me you'll take care of me, you'll always be with me until the day I died, now you left before me, how am I going to live without you?' Xu spent days softly repeating this sentence and touching her husband's black coffin with tears rolling down her cheeks.

In 2006, their story became one of the top 10 love stories from China , collected by the Chinese Women Weekly. The local government has decided to preserve the love ladder and the place they lived as a museum, so this love story can live forever.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

When Face with Pain and Adversity......


What do you want to be - a CARROT, an EGG or COFFEE BEAN?
(message from Bala)

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.


'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you; to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!

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Comments:

Joycelin Said:
"Hi Bala,

Very thankful for this meaningful message. With our stressful lifestyle, we tend to take things for granted and wouldn't take it easy if we encounter problems. So it's time to be the 'Coffee Bean'. Ai Lay, I agree with you, we shall strive to be the Coffee Bean.

One again, thanks for the encouragement.

Regards
Joycelyn"

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Bon Said:
"Bala,
Thanks. Very timely message.

I am sure all of us must have encountered situations/issues in our lives
that have put our patience, tolerance and understanding to the test, regardless in the office, at home or even with social friends. As Joycelyn says, such is life and the way things are, it will not relent and we will find ourselves invariably in such situations time and again.

It will not be easy to always respond in the way the coffee beans do, as for most of us, our natural tendencies to respond in a particular manner usually takes over. Sometimes, it takes a lot of willpower to force ourselves to check and think before we act. May we all have the strength and wisdom to realise that there are more than 1 way to behave, especially towards loved ones. May we learn the coffee beans way ......

Anyone want to join me for a kuppa ?(Kopitiam or Ya Kun)

Rgds,
Bon "

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Success From Self Motivation



Message From Way Seng:-


Dear Friends,

After the wonderful gatherings at Ai Lay's house to celebrate Mr Chow's birthday, it is time to get back to work.

Motivate yourself
Once upon a time there was a bunch of
tiny frogs ..

who arranged a running competition.

The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.
A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants....

The race began....

Honestly:

No one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.

You heard statements such as:

"Oh, WAY too difficult!!"

"They will NEVER make it to the top."

or:

"Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!"




The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one....


Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher...

The crowd continued to yell,
"It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!"

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up....

But ONE continued higher and higher and higher....

This one wouldn't give up!


At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top!

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?


A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal?

I
t turned out....

That the winner was DEAF!!!!



The wisdom of this story is:

N
ever listen to other people's tendencies to be

negative or pessimistic....
because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you -- the ones you have in your
heart!

Always think of the power words have.

Because everything you hear and read will affect your actions!

Therefore:


ALWAYS be....

POSITIVE!
And above all:


Be DEAF when people tell
YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

Always think:


God and I can do this!


Pass this message on to 5 "tiny frogs"
you care about.

Give them some motivation!!!

Most people walk in and out of your life......but FRIENDS leave footprints in your heart

In two days tomorrow will be yesterday. Today is no special day and I have no particular reason for writing to you... I have no news to tell you.... nor any problems to discuss with you.... or gossip to tell you... It's only one of those happy moments ... when I thought of you... and I would like to share these thoughts with you...
MANY SMILES BEGIN BECAUSE OF ANOTHER SMILE...



To The World You Might Be One Person; But To One Person You Might Be the World.

You have been Tagged by the Froggy,
which means you are a great friend!!


Way Seng

Monday, June 9, 2008

Sand and Stone

Sand & Stone:

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE .

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, Why?"The friend replied, "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it."LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.


Thank you to all the organisers of Mr Chow's 60th Birthday gathering.
Cheers.

WS

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Love Without Regret (from Janet)

Our Wise Janet said:-

Very true! Very inspiring!

TO ALL I KNOW............


A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign, which said: 'I am blind, please help.' There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, 'Were u the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?'

The man said, 'I only wrote the truth. I said what u said but in a different way.'

What he had written was: 'Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.'

Do you think the first sign & the second sign were saying the same thing?
Of course, both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story:

Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

Invite the people towards good with wisdom. Live life with no excuse and love with no regrets..

When Life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. Keep the faith and drop the fear.

Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve.

Life is wonderful if you know how to live.

Lived Life to the fullest.......and Make A Difference.. ... JJJ

'As we live each day, may we do our part to make one difference.. to plant hope & touch hearts..
And through each day, may it be our goal... to encourage and inspire those around us.... God bless .. '

Saturday, May 17, 2008

The Wise Old Man

Dear BPES Gang Members,

Yesterday, I emailed everyone a special holiday edition of my weekly Friday post.
Some have written to me saying they could not open the attachment.

Please try this URL:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/3002041/TheWiseOldMan-

PS: Scroll down after your launch the URL and be patient for the slides to load.

Happy Holidays to one and all.




Way Seng